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The Quest for Early FI (And Happiness… Don’t Forget)

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Recently, I got a chance to sync up and re-connect with a good buddy of mine, a guy I’ve known since way back in the day, when I was still picking fruit at the ol Fruit Company located in Cupertino. Suffice it to say, a lot of things have changed since our first encounter, but no different this time around, we simply made time to kick back, enjoy some good conversation over coffee… again… like it was yesterday.

Yup, it’s all about that tried and true favorite of mine, as always, that sea salt iced coffee drank…

Anyway, it’s always fun and something I look forward to… No, not just the sea salt iced coffee alone, but the chance to catch up with someone who shares pretty much the same vision, dream, goals, life aspirations, etc. as yours truly.

I mean, I’m someone who long ago learned to cut ties with all the toxic stuff that ails you, and to try and re-calibrate one’s focus much more on the things/people that actually make you happy.

 

Life is too short to feel stressed out and miserable all the time…

 

So, we got to talking, and what I appreciate about this friendship in particular is that despite all the ups and downs, good and bad, wins and losses, no matter what, at the end of the day, we always find a way to just have a good laugh about anything and everything…

For example, we both rode the euphoria wave when lithium stocks were BRIMMING to the moon back in late 2017/early 2018, and unfortunately for the both of us, greed found a way to work its intoxicating magic… and we both (in lockstep) took that rolleroaster ride all the way back down into the abyss, with some stocks…

 

Hey, you win some and you lose some… but if you don’t learn to look at life from a “glass is half-full” perspective/point-of-view, ultimately, you’ll never find peace and happiness…

 

No doubt, I like to be a drama queen a lot of times, you know, embellish things, and make em out to be far worse than they really are, sometimes… A lot of it, well really, is b/c again, life is so damn short, you just gotta try and have fun with it… as much as possible.

Oh buddy, so many dumb things we’ve gotten ourselves involved in, together, you and me, over the years!

Sighzzzzz….

Gotta love that optimism though!

LOL! Live and learn, my friend… We tried our best, and irregardless of win/lose/epic fail, we still always found/find a way to enjoy the ride!

With that said, my buddy said something to me that I don’t think I’ll ever forget, and it’s something worth pondering over, again and again:

 

“Aye bro, you know, despite these BIG LOSSES and setbacks, in the end, what are we talking about, really? It’s just 1s and 0s on a screen…

It doesn’t mean everything…

Can you tell me that your life would really be all that different if those numbers were re-arranged a little differently, or you were able to add another digit (or two) at the end of that total balance?”

 

Damn, good points, my friend…

 

Which made me think of this recent transgression in the NBA.

From Clutch Points.

From Clutch Points.

Now, most obviously, I’m no superhero like Kevin Durant… or Steve Nash…

I’m just a below-average dude, trying to navigate my way through this crazy world…

But in the end, when it comes down to it, just like dem boys, I’m really no different… in the sense that I’m just a human being looking to find happiness in this world.

From Nets Daily.

Good company, is everything…

From Nets Daily.

It’s NOT all about the Benjamins, baby!

The search for “true happiness”… hooping it up with your boyz…

 

I know, as it pertains to early FI, so many people are fixated on things like cash flow, net worth, making more and more $$$, all the time, 24/7…

 

Yet, I’ve learned this much at least — Money can’t buy me love… or happiness.

The important things that matter most, you’ll never be able to put a price tag on…

 

And if you play that game long enough, it’s all too easy to get sucked in, to perhaps the point where things start to blur a bit, and you really begin to lose your ability to make sense of things… Money becomes NOT only the relentless pursuit, but the be all, end all, de facto prize of them all…

 

I’ve been there, done that, before, and it’s a sad, sad, sad state to be in… and one that can be exceptionally hard to get out of, once you’re ensnared in that web.

 

It’s just so crazy, once you step back and re-assess things though, in my own humble opinion…

 

Sure, having mo money, all things being equal, is great, without question… but it’s still NOT everything!

 

People have often said, “The journey is more important than the destination itself.

 

And these days, I’m beginning to get a better sense of what all that means…

 

Being able to kick back, relax, chill, talk shop (investing/speculating), talk life, and just spend a nice day with a great friend, yeah, ultimately in the end, that’s the stuff that’s priceless… and what we will remember and cherish most once everything is all said and done…

 

Impressively, some people out there, like my pal, just got their heads screwed on right when it comes to life… It’s most humbling when you’re able to sit down with someone who is worth way way way more $$$ than yourself, and you wouldn’t even know it… b/c they are so easy-going, “simple-minded”, and just positive to be around.

 

Who you surround yourself with in your life, is everything.

 

Most things, when it comes down to it, are all about frame of reference…

 

The quest to make as much $$$ as possible can become a most addicting, all-consuming one… But man, don’t lose your humanity (and soul), in the process… It’s just not worth it.

 

Follow the right people, make the right friends/connections, and the path to early FI will not only become that much easier to achieve… but also that damn more fun.

 

Fight On!

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